He I’m sure is convinced that I think that life should mimic the above picture. And by He I don’t mean God, although I’m sure he thinks of himself as one, He is the boyfriend.
Being an intelligent being, he knows what romance looks like, he knows what it is…and like most women, I enjoy it. It enhances the enjoyment of being in a relationship … especially a LDR. I realize romance is a lot harder to pull off… the average guy may come off as a complete cheeseball if he mirrored movie like behavior. For instance, if my boyfriend and I were to take a cruise together, and he placed my body dangerously close to the edge of the deck Titanic style and screamed “I’m the king of the world!” I would probably puke a little in my mouth out of sheer fear of going overboard. That would not be my idea of a shared feel-good moment.
It sucks but there is a double standard… romance novels can get away with in your face romance, and so can movies, but the average guy has to find the comfortable medium. Somewhere between cheesy and a wretched wasteland of indifference lies the perfect amount of romanticism.
A man needs to remember women all over the world have these notions, its important to figure out her fantasies and make at least some of them come true from time to time. Abandoning the idea of romance all together comes off as plain lazy. So yes, life is not a novel … but to all the lovers out there, don’t underestimate what a little gesture can do for the spirit.
The lovely Boyfriend can easily be described as the ‘strong and silent type’ with emphasis on the silent part. Now I’m not saying I need daily confessions of his undying love for me… but a little can go a long way.
So we live in a practical world… does that mean we have to behave in a practical manner all the time?
Consensus say no.
Wake up on the wrong side of the bed? We all have days that seem endlessly tough and emotionally draining. Then there are days where it seems as though the odds are stacked against us, and one terrible situation follows another. Sometimes it is necessary for us to just suck it up and work our way through the day, and other times its best take some time off and take a breather before carrying on.
Hard times can be a great teacher, getting through it will allow you to look back on it and see the ingenuity, strength and courage it took to hold our own during the difficult time. Over the years I have learned that in order for me to greet the next day with delight, I sometimes need to take a timely retreat and give myself space and re-center myself. In that time I may be doing a number of things from exercising, spending time with a chosen loved one, reading, cooking, or simply taking a walk. Whatever it is that I decide to do, my goal is to gain a little perspective and then change my attitude about what’s happening.
In time I realize my difficult times can actually be seen as an opportunity. As I begin to see things from a different vantage point my circumstances seem to better, and over time will be better.
Like any normal person, I hate difficult times…I am not a fan of uncomfortable feelings, and sleepless nights. But like Leona Lewis says, it’ll all get better in time!